Yep - I think Steph maybe onto something here...a combination of anxiety from previous experience and now, anxiety from not having got off the first time is probably taking its toll on you.

No doubt the best thing about a female partner is that hopefully she'll understand (we've all been there!) and you can concentrate on getting off, rather than having to worry about your partner's delicate ego!

Anyway, perhaps you could talk to her about it, and maybe even suggest some ways around it. For example, how about taking the pressure off each other by playing a game of 'tease' where the idea is to touch, lick caress each other for as long as possible without making the other person cum. You can be sure that if you start putting pressure on yourself not to have an orgasm, you'll start having them left right and centre!!!

While I believe that orgasm is important, I think we do tend to focus on them too much....changing your goal so that orgasm is not your main objective may help. When she's doing her stuff, don't think about whether or not you're going to be cumming in the bext five minutes, or how tired her fingers/tongue must be getting or any of that rubbish....try to centre yourself in the moment of how great her touch feels at the precise second you're feeling it. And of course, don't be afraid to direct her to your most sensitive spots....sex is always a learning process.

Good luck sweetie and welcome to the Pixies family.

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