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Old 04-07-2005, 02:15 AM
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Don't let the gremlins in!

People in LDRs tend to suffer from more insecurities and paranoia in their relationships. It's easy to indulge your feelings of insecurity that manifest themselves in feeling mistrustful towards your partner. Don't let that happen!

Keep in regular contact and establish a 'norm' that's right for you. In my LDR I had contact with my partner every single day, but that would be too much for other couples......it really depends on finding something that suits you both.

When you're together, spend quality time away from the bedroom (as difficult as this seems) and do try to make the effort to be sociable with your friends as you would be if your partner lived across the street from you. It's very tempting to think 'I only have the weekend with you, so I'm not going to share you with anyone else in that time' but that's not going to prepare either of you for the realities of a shorter distance relationship if you find that occurs further down the line.

My credentials for dispensing this advice is, by the way: 1 LDR that failed because of the gremlins, and one relationship which went from being online here at Pixies, to long distance for almost a year, to co-habiting for 6 months to being engaged for nearly a year. FussyPucker and I just get happier and happier in our relationship and it couldn't have worked out better for us.

Hope you find the same in your new relationship. There are success stories out there, so just take it one day at a time and it'll be fine. Good luck and enjoy! x
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