Wow winter! I'm glad you have all the answers but sometimes it isn't all as simple as you make it.

Don't be quick to judge until you've been in other peoples shoes, please.

Mismatched mates DO happen and often partners stay together for many reasons and the sex isn't necessarily one of them. I think it's up to each individual and/or couple to decide what is cheating for THEM......I would never presume to know what another couple can and can't do in their marriage or their lives. That is THEIR business, and it isn't for ME to try to make them feel guilty.


It's great that you have all your needs met. That's always a good thing.