scarecrow.........Now you have an answer....It's that simple hun!

Sugarsprinkles......I am of the opinion that if you cyber and you have a S/O.......it doesn't NECESSARILY mean you aren't getting what you need/want sexually or emotionally.......maybe you are just into "VARIETY".....and can take this variety to your personal relationship at another time. I don't want anyone to think that I think cybering is wrong! I think it can add to your relationship if you include your S/O and tell him/her what you have learned or want to try as a result.

Also......(trying not to be a stickler here).......Masterbating, looking at a magazine and pondering, watching a porn film, etc., are all NON-cheating activities as they DO NOT include another person in a conversation of desires and wants and "what I could do to you if I were with you at this moment"!

When you are in a "cybering conversation" you and another "REAL" person are trading thoughts as to what you are doing to one another at that very moment. If your S/O knows and approves of it....it CANNOT be construed as cheating........But if your S/O has no knowledge of "it" and you perpetually hide the fact as they enter the room or you sneak away to be alone to do "it", and you never initiate "it" into your relationship.....then I have to say you are indeed cheating! Even though you haven't had "Physical Sexual Contact", you have had "Sexual Contact" with another person, live and in real time, and so therefore you are decieving your S/O if they have no knowledge of this activity! Decieving sexual behavior is in definition....cheating!

I am not trying to start an argument here.......I just want the masses to understand that there is an answer to this...... But you have to look inside yourself for that answer. And as Sugarsprinkles said in #7....If you think it's cheating.....don't do it!!!!!

I want to add..........If you have to ask.......then you probably already know the answer!

Mrs. Lix

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