Mr. Osuche and I met when I was 18 and he was 20. He didn't have very much of a past -- 2 serious girlfriends (which really weren't -- less than 5 months each) and only one previous lover. He and I went to her wedding together, the second year we dated. I never *needed* to stress over his past.

But I suspect that dating is considerably different for those who meet their S/Os later in life. There's more history, and more opportunity to pick up "baggage" along the way.

It's complicated, I think. You want someone who has loved before ('cause what's wrong with a man who is in his 30s or 40s and has never been in love?), so that they are seasoned. But you don't want them to have loved too much, where they are scarred.

You want them to have broken up with girlfriends for the "right" reasons. But what ARE the right reasons? And do they say something about his character?

<sigh> Maybe I am happy I met the right man early. Or maybe I over-analyze ~~ it's been known to happen!

Thoughts?

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