I agree with most everything our pixies members have said here ... what I have to add is something I learned relatively late in my life (so far) that I don't have a right to control what someone else thinks, even when it's about me ... it's no fun knowing that people are judging you, but they still have the right to do so .... and I'm not sure that I'm completely in agreement that friends don't judge you ... they may very well do so, they just love you in spite of whatever it is. I guess that's my :cents: