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Originally Posted by osuche

YOU are master of your body and sexual ethics, and need not let anyone else dictate them to you. I have a much more open attitude about sex and sexual norms than about 90% of my peers.....but I've also learned that discretion is sometimes the better part of valour. If you don't want to be criticized, simply say NOTHING about your actions or beliefs. The less said, the better IMHO ~~ I don't view this as lying or not "being yourself".....merely as protecting your own interests.

my 2c

^^^^^^That woman is so smart

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My first thought when I read your post and not any of the replies was that you should "refrain from mentioning" certain things that, sorry to say, are judged and utilized by others to put you down and make you feel unworthy. I also don't view not mentioning as lying - just filtering the honesty...

Now, on the other had, if these people are talking about their own perceptions of your activities without you telling them, that is another story. That is beyond your control and thus should be dismissed by you and not allowed to eat at you and make you feel bad. When others do that sort of thing, they are 1) trying to make themselves look better to whomever they are talking to. 2) are jealous of your freedom and want to lock you down based on their own restrictions of what they perceive are society's expectations of the behavior of women. How repressed they are!

It is really sad that society accepts violence, blood, and gore but still seeks to restrain anything to do with sex. Unfortunately you are at the age where the majority of your peers aren't as accepting of themselves and tend to judge others based on an ideal of what they "think" is right for all and not an individual.

To broaden that view - there are many Pixies who cannot show their face here for fear of retribution - losing their jobs, or being judged in their community. You aren't alone with this at all - what we do is "Refrain from Mentioning"..

(((HUGS)))