This is a tough one, I read this before I headed out to work in the morning and it tossed about lazily in my mind much of the day, but here's what I've come up with...

1) Sit for and pass the CPA exam so my Dad could always having bragging rights to his CPA daughter .. it was my goal at 17, and at 30, I'm not quite there yet, but closer now than I've ever been. It would also allow me to know that I've accomplished a major goal and dream within my lifetime.

2) I would at a minimum write a letter to each person that has touched my life at some point to let them know that they are still thought of and that I hope they are well... given the time and money I'd make an effort to hand deliver each letter.

3) Really an extension to #2, but when I wrote #2 I originally was not thinking of family members but others that have passed through my life... so... I would try to have a face to face conversation with my sister and let her know that while we have gone totally opposite directions that I often needed her for that big sister advice, and while I'm disappointed that she's accepted that she doesn't need her family that I would really want her to realize that as nice as picking your relatives seems, you must accept those you have and encourage her to mend the relationships that she's ruined.

{edited to add an attempted response to the follow up question from osuche} ... why haven't I done these things... excellent question! I've been working (and continue to) on #1, and know that I will accomplish this soon enough. As for the other two, I don't know, I guess for #2, I pray that those same people know that they were important for what ever purpose to me and that I'm thought of by them from time to time as well ... and #3, I've not been able to compose myself for the confrontation and know that I would remain rational and unexplosive so in the meantime I've just hoped she would come to her senses. I've attempted at this ... though it was 8 years ago, I'm probably a small bit wiser and patient now.