05-22-2002, 12:29 PM
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Pixies Den Mother
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: No-Hockey Land, dammit!!
Posts: 11,897
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Lilith,
My husband's family is like that but only up to a point. We rarely have huge family dinners anymore, but when we did the women usually were in the kitchen preparing the meal while the men watched TV. But then we all either sit at the table for dinner or serve ourselves buffet style. If my husband waited for me to prepare his plate (unless I chose to simply because I felt like it) he'd still be sitting there!  My mother told me many years ago that whatever you do in your first 3 months of marriage will become expected of you. So no waiting on him hand and foot, even tho' you're so madly in love that you want to do EVERYTHING for him. He learned early on not to expect such service. If either of us goes to the kitchen for something we'll ask if the other wants anything.
I have always reached over to unlock the car door for him. It's just simple courtesy. I'll also hold the door to the house open when he's carrying groceries in for me. |