Me too



Absolutely, but....she does need to know that you think she's sexy. Not "still sexy even though you've kept on a few pounds from the pregnancy"...but sexy. With love, there's no "sexy even though" or "pretty in spite of". You know? Mrs. WI does not think she's sexy or pretty. I do. We have a difference of opinion. While I recognize her right to think she's not...I take issue when she projects that opinion onto me. That's what I'm addressing here. I can't make her change her self-image...and I won't stand for her trying to change my image of her either.

It's a tough situation to be in. If I prepare a super healthy meal for supper, or suggest a walk on a beautiful night...I run the risk of her thinking I'm doing it because I think she needs to lose weight. Then I'm forced into defending myself by trying to get her to understand that while I think she looks awesome...I understand that she doesn't think that and that I'm only trying to support her. And if I cook what I want, and don't ask her to enjoy a walk with me, then I'm being an enabler. Like I said, it's a tough situation to be in. But you can't get through it if you're not honest with her.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.