The general tone of the book appears to be "unload the excess baggage that you have picked up along the way". Things that happen in the past definately shape who you are and how you act. By examining your past, and the interactions that left their mark on you, you can then begin to look (as an adult) at them and determine whether or not you can safely pack them away and stop letting them influence your actions now. So everyone's right, in a sense.

I'll get the info on the book and pm those interested tomorrow...if I remember. ha ha

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.