A very deep issue WildIrish.

I don't think the questions are related directly to your past, they are more related to your future and current state. Making peace with yourself (IMHO) should not involve parents or your actions as a child. IMHO, making peace with yourself should be about making peace with yourself NOW. Otherwise, it will just become a whirling pool.

for example:
When's the last time you were afraid to be alone?
Never
How did your parents respond to your actions as a child?
Understanding but demanding
In what ways are you very much like your father...your mother?
Stubborness yes but that is the reason you fight about. Like the story of 2 goats on the bridge.
Do you treat your children like your parents treated you?
NO
and i want to add another question to this:
WILL you treat your children like your parents treated you?
NO

Being in peace with your past must be a hard thing... Obviously we all have done things in the past that we still regret. I guess being in peace with yourself is a better solution. If you accept your fault in the things you regret (the past) you'll evidentally make peace with your past.

Good topic