all this is sooooooo familiar and must therefore be quite common,

its all about being satisfied by what satisfies us and then doing it somehow together.

How about a glass of something bubbly to relax with, a sensual massage, with lots of teasing then let her stimulate herself. If you get behind her like two spoons or in any positon where you can penetrate when she is ready and simply talk, kiss her caress her or let her see you play with yourself and finally penetrate her as she is reaching orgasm (hopefully this wont put her off her stride and with a bit of luck you could come together)

failing that - if you love her and she loves you and you both come together by some means then you are luckier than most - good luck

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