LOL - yes, that is important to know that you still love the man - even when he pisses you off! Accept that fact that he will probably piss you off more than once during your marriage! (As you will probably piss him off too!)
Love, understanding, respect - realize that as you continue on your journey of marriage that you are each individuals and your reactions to things will be different - and respect those differences don't try to mold them into your own perspectives.
Don't allow outside influences (family, friends, work, etc.) to get in the way of the life that both of you are establishing for yourselves.
Understand the fact that you are constantly evolving in your attitudes, deisres, interests, etc... and he is evolving as well and should understand your changes.
Realize that even though you love each other it is ok to not like each other on occassion.
Don't sweat the small stuff - is it really important for you to get mad at him if he leaves the toilet seat up? Is it really important for him to get mad at you if you leave your makup on the bathroom sink? (Just an example)
As you are each individuals in your life together - sometimes you must encourage and accept an idea or event that you feel wouldn't be totally right in order for your SO to be able to grow.
Always discuss purchases together! LOL
Have fun! Don't loose sight on what makes you each laugh.
The other is your best friend...speak about personal things - things that you would consider secret, interests, deisres (no matter how strange) only to each other and not to strangers, family members, etc.
If you are mad at each other - tell only him and he should tell only you - don't complain about each other to others.
Find something each and every day that you love about your husband or wife - no matter how small. (I noticed just recently how Cobalt's hair slightly curls at the back of his neck when it is close to the time for him to get a haircut - it made me smile)
Imagine yourself together when you are old together - holding hands, going to a movie, laughing, and taking care of each other when there is an illness.
Cobalt gave me a gift the other day - he told me that I, and only I, know something about him that no one else will ever know. That gift of total trust in me with something that is so very personal is something that I will cherish to the end of my days.
These are just a few things that Cobalt and I keep in mind for us to be healthy in our marriage.
(The only time that it matters to me if he leaves the toilet seat up is when I have to rush to the bathroom in the middle of the night and don't want to turn lights on as to not wake anyone up and I fall into the water - it doesn't hurt to remind someone every now and then about stuff that annoys you... lol )
