grumbleguts - I was also interested in your perspective.

Unfortunately for my husband, the lack of sex in this marriage is his own fault. He made a choice a long time ago to devote his time and attention to the computer while virtually ignoring his wife and kids.

It has been only recently that I noticed the pixies web site coming up on our computer log over and over that I confronted him about it.

My reason for starting this thread in the first place was to get his attention. I tried being up front with him in the real world and that didn't work. Maybe we will be able to resolve this and maybe we won't. Maybe it's already been too late for years and I just didn't want to admit it.

Thanks for your help.