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It's always been my experience that men want 'ownership' of me, in a way that I've not always been comfortable.

It's just how a lot of men are. You'd have no trouble going into a bar and getting a 'one night' quick fix to your problem, but those are the guys who really do treat you like shit, and don't have any respect for you, and it sounds to me like you've had enough of men like that.

I was in a similar situation a little while back myself. I wanted a 'friend' I could have sex with and have fun with, but the truth was, in fact, that at that time I just wasn't ready for a relationship, sexual or otherwise, despite my extreme level of sexual frustration. No guy was quite right for me, and no situation suited me properly, which I now realise was my way of avoiding a relationship of any kind.

In the end, my choice was to put up with the sexual frustration, and hope that my head would soon come to a place which would enable my body to have what it wanted. Sure enough, about a year of being single, I was ready to go into another relationship, unsure of what the future would hold. Thankfully for me, what started out as a fairly relaxed and casual affair, turned into a full blown romance. These things often do, and you can't stop them once you've started. And that's exactly the problem....no matter how casual the relationship is in the beginning, it may develop into something major, and at the back of your mind, you know that. Is it possible that that's why you're pushing away the men you're dating? It's really hard for anyone to maintain the status quo you're after in a relationship, as all relationships develop and evolve.

Perhaps you'd be better off sorting your head out completely alone, and investing in a good vibrator until you're in a position where you feel more comfortable about dating.