now to add to the items being discussed--yes my wife does work and yes she does the majority of the housework. I do have chores that i do. I take care of the kids after 4pm and she has them in the mornings. I do try to do as much around the house as i can and i am always getting her flowers and items like that. My thing isnt so much the sex per se but the fact that she rarely iniates. I did talk with her today and she is going to get a hormone test as she even told me that she feels less sexual that she normally does. So we will see what becomes of that.