Setting up an encounter with restrictions prohibiting something as natural and primal as climaxing when oral is allowed seems like it's doomed from the start. That's one rule that's bound to be broken. Rules go out the window in the heat of the moment. I don't know about you but once I get my tongue on a fragrant and quivering hoo hoo...well, the only time I've been stopped prior to orgasm was because she wanted intercourse. Sometimes not even then.

My opinion? Think about what group sex is all about, and how it impacts everyone involved. If and when that impact is understood and acceptable, proceed with realistic expectations. Orgasm should be one of them because it's gonna happen...like it or not.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.