Hm, with all of that, it really sounds like it might be a bad idea. The whole basis for relationships in general should be turst, and even more so if people are going to involve other parties in their relationships.

I will acknowledge that I could easily be wrong, but from what I'm reading, you and your S/O just haven't reached the point of trusting each other yet. And honestly, you might not. Or you may. I'm really trying not to pass judgement on what your relationship is like. I am trying to answer you question with the best advice I can give.

And that's the idea that if you want to do X, then you need to realize that Y & Z go with it.


Oh, and a completely different thing:

(welcoming head bobs to another lizard)

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