May I establish that this thread is about "open Marriage". Marriage as I understand it sanctioned by the state (what interest the state should have in your personal relationships would be another good thread). But official marriage supposedly bound by vows that we make to each other amongst other things.

If you are not married then the context of this thread has nothing to do with your chosen lifestyle and please do not take my comments to be aimed at you.

Many of the other issues raised here would make very interesting threads and I hope that they are started.

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.