I am getting a divorce and I am having a tough go at it. I realize that it is not supposed to be easy! Let me give you some history:We were together for nine years, married for four, well she left 2 days before our fourth anniversary. She informed me that she had been having an affair from August until March. I had no idea. I know most don't. I worshipped the ground she walked on, I even took out a loan so she could get breast augmentation. I do not know what I did wrong. She has been hanging out with women who are from broken relationships and are about her age. I have been trying to work this out with her, try to ask her out on a date, go to counseling at my expense all without success. I have been asking her out on "dates" to try to get back together, but something always manages to come up. I desperately want to work this out, I love her soo much I am willing to forgive the affair. Can anyone tell me if I am just stringing myself along because I am blinded by love? All thoughts and opions welcome, and please try not to candy coat things. Thank you to all who reply.

J