Can I offer a very strange suggestion?

After my experiences with my ex, who was violent and abusive (he had an "episode" once a year), I went to a program called "Al-anon," not Alcoholics Anonymous. AA is for the drinker. Al-Anon is for the family of drinkers.

Now, even though her ex might not be an alcoholic, the principles of al-anon helped me IMMENSELY. They work for life, no matter what, even if the man is just addicted to violence instead of alcohol. I would advise her to go, it's free group counseling, it WORKS wonders, and it's everywhere. It saved my life.