I'm sorry to hear you got your feelings hurt, Raven. I know less than nothing about these ratings communities, but I think that maybe there's a lesson you can learn from this. I read through some of the places I could get to from your links, and it gave me astounding high school flash backs. That lovely (ahem) period in my life when other people's opinions about me mattered more than mine did. I got a lot happier when I stopped trying to validate myself through other people's opinions, stopped giving them permission to diminish me, and started focusing on what I thought was right or true or good enough.

Basically, I'm at a point now where I don't CARE if anyone else thinks I'm cute, or if we're a cute couple. I know that I am, and if anyone else doesn't see that...or thinks they can make themselves more important by denying it....then their opinion isn't important to me. I take constructive criticism. I don't accept some in crowd that tells me I can't be part of their group because I'm not wearing the right shoes, or my bf isn't on the right teams.

I don't know why you wanted into the group in the first place, truthfully. I don't know if it's important to you to be told that you're living up to some standard as a couple. If there's some payoff to getting to do an online journal under these people's auspices, well...then I'd take some of the advice here on board, and put more of yourself into your application. Truthfully, I think that your answers didn't give them as much of a chance to get to know you as they wanted. But mostly, I'd just take some time to decide if you really care what they think, if this is how they treat people.

Just my 2cents.

G