If it's real, she won't rush. She'll eventually hear you when you say you're not "there yet" or not comfortable, and she'll slow down. If she does care for you as much as she claims...the LAST thing she'd want to do is scare you away by moving too fast. Because it all changed suddenly, I'd say that if she keeps pushing despite you giving her no reason to think you feel the same....well, then I'd start to wonder if she may have reasons beyond love to want to come over. If it does develop in a positive way over time, well....because I'm a cautious so and so, I'd recommend you going over to visit her before having her come into the states to visit you.

And I agree with Lil, the minute she asks for money...cut it off. Hell, in my humble opinion the minute anyone you "just met" online asks for money...it's time to cut them off.

You know, if it were me, and I was starting to doubt the veracity of her feelings....I'd be sorely tempted to do an about face. I'd tell her that my business (job/trustfund/income of whatever sort) just went tits-up and I was now scrounging for pennies....that I wasn't sure how I was going to pay for the dedicated nursing that was sure to become necessary in the next couple of years...and that I was afraid I was going to wind up a burden on my many many children. Not a stunt I'd pull if I thought she was being honest, mind you. But it's sorely tempting if it turns out to be a scam.

Hope it turns out for the best, whatever that turns out to be.