As of yet, I've only been the tie-er. We improvised and used a set of leg irons as handcuffs. Then I held onto the extra long chain to control her arms. Was a lot of fun and a hell of a wrestlin' match! I'd definitely like to do more and also to be the tie-ee. We have plenty of things to play with when we do, several sets of handcuffs, the leg irons, a hobble restraint, and god only knows how many scarves, leather straps and lengths of rope we have laying around! As far as rules go, just the basic "if it ain't fun, don't do it" and stop when told to.