You guys have to remember. She's been abused. Anal without lube for someone who has had it used against them, and being in a vulnerable position (him towering over her from behind) will not promote the sense of safety that she needs.

Lube for someone who has experienced things forced painfully into their ass is the ONLY way to ensure that she feels pleasure from it. Without lube, there are times where there is a bit of pain. Now, a bit of pain can be pleasurable, UNLESS it dredges of flashbacks of horrifying memories.

For someone in this situation, I repeat. LUBE IS A MUST!! The incidents of possible pain will be reduced dramatically. It is absolutely important that it have as little pain (even pleasant pain) as possible associated with it.

And having a man towering behind her is the same way. If he is on his side, and she is, it's less intimidating.

What I am trying to do here is to offer her ways to remove the negatives, which are psychological.

You guys (and me now) have built up a psychological "cache" of positives with anal. She has a huge bank of psychological negatives. It is those that I am addressing.

also, with lube, it can be distracting. Which is also important. Plus, she will come to associate that feeling with a positive, it makes it different from the other experiences. Being DIFFERENT is of utmost importance.