Hi blueraider,

I am the friend that Lixy mentioned and have been exactly where you are now. I stayed and it messed me up a lot.

I would suggest though that the first thing to do is to discuss it with your wife. How you feel unloved and not desired. She may not even know, which was what my ex claimed when I decided that I could stand it no longer.

I would also suggest you both go to marriage counselling and see if you can perhaps find a way to bring back the loving feeling.

Divorce is an ordeal that should be avoided if at all possible. It is hard on the heart, mind and especially the pocket. The ones that really suffer are the kids and they must be pretty young from the sounds of it.

Do everything to make sure that you can honestly say that you have tried first, then look for alternatives. Please feel free to PM me if you want, I will certainly lend you a receptive ear.

Good Luck