well why don't you ask your S/O to be a stranger for a night. Meet somewhere act like you want try to pick him up, show him how sexy you want to be. Maybe tease him by flirting with someone else let him know what he could miss . Bet he cums along just fine and maybe he'll feel open to discussing his fantasies too

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