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Originally posted by fzzy
Can I answer this question ...... ... I've bought a couple of cars without ever test driving them .... and it turned out very well for me.

In answer to the sex before marriage thing ... like Lil said, people make choices for a variety of reasons, I condemn neither view point, nor the presentation of why someone makes that choice ... we do what we believe we will be comfortable with for the most part in this life, that's how I make my decisions ... not worrying about whether or not someone who might hear my reasons for a decision finds them a worthy argument.

Lil and Fzzy,

I agree totally with you both on this point, and have therefore never before questioned people's decision to abstain from sex before marriage.

However, watching these two particular young women on TV made me worry for them. They really seemed to have reached their decision for the wrong reasons. They were so focussed on trying to ensure that the man they slept with was not going to up and leave them in the morning, that I felt as though their fears about that might actually cloud their judgement in a relationship.

I also worried that they would be totally unprepared for the complications and implications that a sexual relationship bring and those complications may even jeopardise their relationships with their future husbands.

I suppose my reason for starting this thread is to reassure myself that there are people out there who make this decision, not from fear but from a more positive and healthy perspective.