aww, sweetie i'm sorry you're having to go thru this too. i'm also in the process of getting a divorce. next month will be our 10th anniversary. he had a choice between me and his drug habit and apparently it won.

i'm finding there isn't a statute of limitations on when people will stop asking you how you and your husband are doing. you just have to keep telling them that you're no longer together and watch their faces as they try to figure out how to remove the foot from their mouths. information on things he was doing behind my back keeps surfacing...still. even though i threw him out the first week of august - his bad decisions are coming back to haunt me. i've found if you are the partner who was financially responsible, don't be suprised if the other has been robbing peter to pay paul and you're going to be the one left under the pile of bills once his tricks and money games have been played out and everything just collapses. i'm discovering there are too many "what if's..." and if you let them play over and over in your mind, you'll eventually drive yourself nuts. it's not your responsibility to shoulder all the blame, or to think you could have singlehandedly "fixed" your relationship.
feelings were hurt. mistakes were made. these things happen. we're human. try not to beat yourself up over it, and if you need to talk to someone, PM me or work it out with yourself and your friends here on the board. this doesn't have to follow you and drag you down for the rest of your life. it IS possible to cut the ties and move on, and that's what you should do. it hurts, but it's over and there are all kinds of new friends to meet, new experiences to be had (no matter how old or young you are) and a life that YOU have a right to live and enjoy. i feel for you honey, hang in there. you're definately not alone.

luv ya
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