I think anyone capable of murder (true murder...premeditated or snap decision) is not fully sane. There's a big bell that should go off in your head when you're at that point of no return, and if you ignore it...you're nuts. Go to jail and do your time. If the judge thinks you should get out, you should be tested and treated accordingly so that when you are set free, you don't do it again. If you are sentenced to stay in prison until you die, taxpayer's money shouldn't be wasted treating you.

As for charging the spouse...that's a gray area. Many of us can't even consider that someone we know and love is capable of such a tragic act. How do you hold someone accountable for that? If there are deliberate actions that take place in spite of repeated signs of potential harm, well, that's another thing. For him to be asleep when this is all going on...well, that's kinda weird.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.