Thank you for your honesty everyone. In our relationship it works beautifully, but I have seen it have the opposite effect. My advice is talk about it until you are tired of talking about it. Then talk some more. We have been to the club again, and had an even better time this time. In my opinion, for people that are interested in the lifestyle, it is the best and safest place to meet other couples. Everyone has different limits and boundaries, and all are respected there. Besides, you don't have to play with the other part of the couple if you aren't attracted to them. There isn't that pressure at the club. People just mingle, and meet like minded people.

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If you won't listen to reason, there's always... Towanda!... Kathy Bates~Fried Green Tomatoes