raven18,

A slut is a slovenly, depraved woman. If you discuss your sexual behavior with people who condemn multiple partners (either in series or in parallel) then the feedback you get will be colored by their opinions. If you discuss the same behaviors with the people who have a different vision of healthy sexual activity - Pixies comes to mind here, the feedback you’ll get will be rather different.

You are designed to be sexually active at your age. Your interest in, and desire to explore your sexuality is what, in aggregate, replenishes the species. Society (your folks, friends, community et al) find it immensely easier to get on with the many other burdens of life if the fires of youth are actively managed. Social pressures such as negative feedback about taboo behaviors have proven to be effective tools.

The transformation from a child into an adult – not an older child or an ageing adolescent – is a complex process. You will come to terms with compromise, although that proved to be difficult for me. You will recognize that ideals are to be striven for and not necessarily achieved. You are, with the onset of sexual activity adding to the number of complexities in your life. These years are unavoidably difficult.

The way you are using the word describes how you feel about yourself. You don’t seem like a slut to me, but what is paramount is how you feel about yourself. If you are using multiple sexual partners to fill an emptiness within, then you would be better served fixing the void than filling it. Take you life at a pace that suits you, not some you that you think you “should” be.

Good luck.

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Eudaimonia