I am going through a divorce with my wife of 16 years.

It was very hard to do and has caused pain on both side and it made me feel a failure.

I have since met Curvy and through her I have gained a better insight on things. Curvy is a perceptive and intelligent woman
and she discussed how if you are unsuited to each other then you cannot meet the others needs nor have yours met.

My wife and I came together because we both thought we had missed the boat relationshipwise and we fulfilled the immediate need. The cracks soon appeared because we were so unsuited in many ways, libido, interests, outlook so many things. We did make 2 lovely children that we both love tremendously. We still go as a family to athletics and she and I are friends. We never run each other down and co- operate to ensure the children are properly cared for and nurtured.

Sometimes couples grow together and sometimes they grow apart. That a divorce happens is tragic but to make it world War 3 is compounding the misery for everyone especially children who love both their parents.