I got married at 20 to my high school sweetheart. It took less than 2 years to realize our relationship was founded on sex and hardly anything else. I've passed on a lot of opportunities I've had in life because of the child that resulted from that marriage and sometimes I do regret getting married then. I love my child dearly and there is no way I would change the past now, even if I could. I simply recommend listening to the advice in this thread... take your time, experience the things that are really only possible as a single person. Also, if you do find a guy that you want to marry but he doesn't seem to show interest, talk to him about it... but don't give him the ultimatum, "Marry me or else!" I think if it comes to that then he is just not ready to marry. Based on personal experience and the experiences of my friends I recommend that no one get married before they are 25. People can change a lot in their early (and even mid) 20's. Anywho, I am rambling now and it sounds like you do have a pretty good idea of what you want for yourself. Listen to that and not pressure from those around you. Good luck BCG!

Ginger... the first friend you mentioned... I can see why you are worried about her. My un-professional opinion is she needs therapy. I'm not sure exactly what sort... but some kind of help. I think I would be worried if I started dating a woman and found out she had EVERYTHING already picked out.

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