I married my first husband at age 28. All my friends were married and some had children. I felt like my life was turning into the perfect example of what my mother always referred to as the "why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free" syndrome. I'd been in long term relationships but I had never actually been proposed to at that point in my life......and I got to thinking.....what's wrong with me and why doesn't anyone want to marry me? I thought.....ok, I'm gonna lay down the law and make him make a choice. Marry me or I go! It was a pretty big mistake for me to demand that of him....and for us to marry! I realized AFTER the fact....that I really only wanted to be married because everyone I knew was and I felt like the odd girl out! Needless to say.....it didn't work out. It wasn't his fault (completely)....but it should have never happened! I could still be married to him now if I had of stayed and bit the bullet.......but it was never the same comittment for me that it was for him. For that, I am truly sorry to have dragged him through it!

BCG......don't rush on account of pressure! When the time is right, you'll know it. It won't feel like pressure....it'll just feel right! It may not come for years....or it may happen in a second's notice.....but when it happens, you'll know it's the right time and place in your life!

BTW hun..........even after you are married, the outside pressure doesn't stop! Suddenly everyone's chant shifts from. "When ya gonna marry?" to "When ya gonna have babies?" LOLOLOL!

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