Finally, a thread I feel somewhat uniquely qualified to answer - at least from my perspective that is .... I'm 45 and never married, no children ... I love men, would love to have a loving relationship - even marriage with one, presuming one came along that fit my life and world in the right way and I fit his in the right way.

I have two comments here ... (and forgive me, they are conflicting ones) ... First, I am firmly convinced that there is nothing better than a good marriage, but also, almost nothing worse than a bad one! There is no need to marry because of some sense of pressure from the outside .... you are looking for a good marriage, not just marriage.

And so I'm tempted to say, there's no rush, take your time ... etc., however, here's the conflicting statement ... time goes by so much faster than you would ever suspect and so I think it's good that you feel some sense that your stand will change soon, don't put it off too long if that is what you want ... but also widen your circle of friends a bit, there are bound to be those in the outskirts of your life who are not married and would love to be a "friend". Good luck with making your life all that you want it to be!!!