She really needs to see a doctor. She could be allergic to the latex, she could be allergic to the spermicide but you will never know until she goes and finds out. You said that she was in pain for 8 to 9 months, if she had an infection or inflammation down there it could have caused some major damage. For her safety she needs to see a doctor. Even if it is to a clinic and you pay cash. Also, and please do not take this the wrong way, maybe this is her nice way of telling you that she isn't ready to continue down that sexual path with you. I know that when I first started "fooling around" and eventually having sex with my boyfriend I would find ways and reasons why we shouldn't. I just wasn't ready and instead of telling him straight out, I would drop hints, ex: One week I would have a UTI; the next week would be that I had a stomach ache, etc. Whatever the case is please be understanding, respectful and patient with her.

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