Yep ... one of the best things I figured out for myself in one of those moments when everything seemed uncertain and I didn't know what I wanted to be/do for the rest of my life .... I spent some time thinking about what I wanted people to be feeling about who I was in their lives when they sit during my funeral at some future time ... once I figured that out all the decisions seemed to fall in place ... sometimes I end up revisiting that thought process when I hit that time of wondering what is most important to me.