Bend it Like Beckham is one of my favorite films; I have it on DVD and have watched it many times.

From ages 19 to 43, my ex-husband and I were together--married for 22 of those years. We are now divorced, but it had nothing to do w/our racial difference. He is American Black and I am American white. We met in college, had a lot in common, had few cultural differences, and produced two beautiful children from the marriage.

His mother, in particular, was against the union at first, but his father said she at least had to meet me before passing judgment. I became her favorite daughter-in-law, and I loved her dearly. Both our children and I are still considered part of the family. In fact, I am presently living with my ex's youngest sister, who also is my best friend.

My parents were against the union to the point that my father tried to shoot us when we announced we were getting married, and I was not allowed to see them, any of my relatives, or any of my siblings for 14 years. They have since come around and treat my children the same as they treat their other grandchildren. Such unions can be a growth experience for more than just the couple themselves.

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