SilentSoul - We are indeed a community here, and it is here among friends that you have bared your inner-self so freely. As a Christian, it pains me to hear of your disdain for the religion although I must say I have known some Christians in my day that I was embarrassed to be affiliated with in ANY way, so I can understand your feelings there. Other than that, I can give no better advice than what has been offered above.

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Clever? Nah, I ran out of that years ago. But if you find this, let me know, k?
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In memory of my friend skip...
Go then, there are other worlds than these