thanks for all your help guys-I've healed up, no bleeding. We did use a condom but I also made him but some lube on me just in case, I've done it before and it was great, but this time it just hurt I think we may have rushed into it and he was going to fast for just putting it in, I myself when I'm by myself and my boyfriend sometimes finger it but I dunno lol I really don't think the anus can stretch i agree! Now with first begining how should I relax because sometimes I just tense up and it always feels like I'm ready to have a boul movement and I don't want that! how do you guys prepare..thanks for your advice I told my b/f next time he's deffinately going to have some fourplay before we jump into things! thanks everyone