Ok, here goes!

1. Call it the cynicism of youth and inexperience, but I personally think it's highly unlikely to have an orgasm based on words and mental stimulation alone. But hey, it's amazing what an open mind can achieve.
Typically I think if you feel guilty enough to ask if it's ok to do something that may be called cheating, it probably isn't a very good idea. So I'd say either turn him down, or talk to your hubby about it if you really want to go ahead.

2. I'm sure there are hundreds, but I don't live in the US unfortunately. I'm sure you'll get plenty of suggestions though!

3. I don't think there's much danger of loss of sensitivity. A week's a long time between sessions!

Hope this helps,
CasperTG

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