Your ex is trying to assist the bf in establishing a relationship with R.........or so it appears. Jenna did explain it correctly, she doesn't have to grant visitation other than what is in the agreement, unless there is a statement in there that goes something like "visitation over and above what is stipulated in order to inhanse the relationship between child and non-custodial parent." If there is a statement in your settlement like that, then you do have the right to see your daughter as often as you want. The only thing that would stop that from happening is if when you wanted visitation, that would interfer with the child's day-to-day routine.

Get a calendar planner with lots of space to write on the dates. You need to start recording everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When you requested visitation and turned down and why.... like what just happened... she let bf have time with daughter and not you... that kinda stuff. Also, write good stuff down in the calendar. The reason being, if you do have continued problems and need to take it back to court, it won't appear as if you are a disgruntled jealous ex-spouse out to get the wife back for having a bf.... I know, kinda sucks. You do need to protect yourself and your daughter. We have to do that here.... Cobalt has custody, but that doesn't stop his ex from causing problems. We document everything!!!!!! (sometimes I wish the one that is left at home would be of the age of emancipation.. then it wouldn't be a problem.)

As you can see, I can write a book about this...... ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))

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