I just read this thread right through and you are best to put him and his family right behind you Hun.

As to not wanting a relationship right now, well that is entirely understandable. The man used you and cheated and lied to you.

That hurts and it is a natural reaction to wonder if it is worth it.

You are quite a young woman, go out with guys you feel attracted to and compare their qualities, you have learnt through experience that the things to look for as well as attraction are honesty, openess, caring and faithfullness. These are the qualities of keepers and ones that will ultimately give you security and happiness.

hope this year brings you much happiness

Hugs

Grumble