Welcome to Pixies', Deadsy6!
I think what the others have said so far is very right, but let me add my 2 cents --- maybe as a woman I can offer a different perspective from what the men have said.
What Luv2Please said about hygeine is completely true. Most of us (women) spend our childhood/youth thinking that what's 'down there' is dirty and smells bad, so it can come as a major shock when we find ourselves in bed with some guy who actually
wants to put his face down there! It takes a long time for some of us to learn to believe him when he says he enjoys it or that he likes the taste/smell. To be honest, I still have momentary flashes of that doubt, myself, but I've learned to silence them
really quickly and just let myself enjoy the sensations... (And oh, how I enjoy them now!
)
If indeed this is the problem with your g/f, there's no quick and easy way to make her believe you --- it's going to take patience on both your parts. Make sure that when you do go down on her, if she lets you, you're very vocal about the pleasure you get from it. This makes sense when you consider how most women are raised to please others ahead of themselves --- we need to know that you're enjoying what you're doing to be able to relax and enjoy it ourselves.
If she doesn't let you actually perform oral sex on her directly, then perhaps a good start would be to play (manually) with her clit and her labia and so on, and every so often to withdraw your hand and lick off your fingers, again being very vocal about your enjoyment of that taste.
(When I say vocal, I don't mean that you have to wax poetic --- a good moan can be worth a thousand words. Or, if appropriate, just point to your erection and say something like 'See what your taste does to me?' --- it's a very vivid way of illustrating how you feel about the taste. This, of course, comes back to Bilbo's point about communication.)
Okay, now that I've spent all that time on the importance of helping her relax and believe in your enjoyment, there's also the physical side of pleasuring her to think about. I don't know enough about you to know how much experience you've had or what you have or haven't tried --- perhaps if you could give us a better indication of that then I (and the others) would be able to offer some more advice.
I once prepared an 'instruction manual' to the female genitals (complete with labelled illustration
) for a male friend who was a virgin and somewhat mystified as to what to do to what bits to pleasure a woman --- I'd be happy to post that here if it would be helpful, but I don't want to insult your experience/intelligence if you're well beyond that stage.
So let us know where you stand in terms of experience and attempted solutions, and then we'll do our best to help you out some more! If you could tell us what your girlfriend's explanation for not liking oral sex is, too, that would be very helpful...
Meanwhile, good luck, and have patience!
--- sweetstuff