It's best to use a condom even if you don't need to practice safe sex, because you can end up w/a urinary tract infection if you don't use one. (A lover of mine learned the hard way.) Also, I don't know about other people, but I found that semen is a very strong natural laxative--another reason that SHE may want you to use a condom.

To me you can never be too prepared, which means reading up on the subject first. Here are some other Pixie threads regarding anal sex. There are some great additional sites mentioned in those threads, too.

Pixies Place Forums - 1st time anal sex

Pixies Place Forums - Women HELP! re: Anal Sex


Pixies Place Forums - Pain In The Ass


BTW, everything on your list to me is sexual or could be. Also, I'd have a hard time choosing just one. The only 2 I wouldn't care about are 69 and the foot thing. Also, being "forced" to come a set number of times? Is there such a thing? I consider it a perk for him if I say I'd like him to come in my mouth, in my pussy, AND in my ass at least once during our lovemaking session.

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