I am a person that has suffered mental illness with recurring bouts of depression for a great deal of my adult life.

From what I hear about your hubby it would be my summation that he really needs some professional help. I have suffered anxiety attacks and they are hell on earth.

You cannot deal with it yourself. he needs to recognise it though.

The family and friends of sufferers have it extremely tough and I know you are showing the strain.

Talk could help and by all means do so. You can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink and this is the same with these illnesses of the mind.

I wish you the very best Hun

big hugs

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