Well Mae, I just posted a suggestion for possible therapy for him and now I see this. Well me thinks your only recourse is to try to talk things out openly. As Lilith said, intimacy is more than sex. It's open honest communication between two loving adults. Hopefully you can find the right way to approach these problems and find the answers. I sure wishI had some "tricks" to offer. Good luck. We'll all be pulling for you.

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