How old is your guy, 28? Hmmmm. A lot of us guys right around this age should be more mature but we aren't. Many times we say we want one thing (sex and only sex) but deep down we don't know what we want. It sounds like your guy really does love you regardless of his "in it for the nookie only" statement. Be careful. We (guys) can do a lot of emotional damage to the women we love without ever intending or wanting to. It sounds like your boyfriend is just as confused about what he wants as you are.

I'll reiterate what I've posted before loveli1: Take your time. Make no decisions now. If your boyfriend must leave, you must let him. The old saying goes, if you love something, set it free. I know you are worried about losing "the one." I'm not convinced it works that way. Right now he is the one. If things don't work out, you will recover and you will find another. You might find something out about yourself in the process and be happier in the future. You might even discover "another one." They are out there.

About 7 years ago, I lost the love of my life. I wanted to marry her and have children with her. I loved her more than life itself. Things didn't go as I would have hoped. Neither my fault nor hers, it just worked out badly. I moved 2500 miles away from her and have not seen her since. I was devastated. I thought I'd lost my one true love and hope to be happy. In time I got over her. Being single, I learned a lot about who I was and who I wanted to be. I met a wonderful woman. At first, I had no idea she was going to be as important to me as she has become. We have been married now for almost 2 years and we just had a beautiful son. I am happier than I have ever been. The one that I thought was not while the one that is I almost never met. The person I am today would not be in love with that long ago sweetheart. I still think about her and lament losing her as I truly did love her, but I am happier now and much more self actualized. My wife is fantastic and I hope and pray that I never lose her. But if I do, things will work out.

Trust in love, trust in your boyrfiend, and most importantly, TRUST IN YOURSELF! Listen to your heart, but reason with your mind.

Look before you leap.

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"Even a man who is pure of heart
And says his prayers by night
Can become a wolf when the wolfbane blooms
And the moon is full and bright."